Today would have been my 3 year wedding anniversary.
March 27 – My phone has lit up like a Christmas tree of messages & memories of what was a fantastic wedding celebration but the matter of the fact is that even though the wedding/weddings were magical, the marriage was not.
One of my dearest girlfriends wrote to me today: ‘3 years ago today, things have changed so much but all for the better!’
I actually saw my ex-husband last night – we didn’t even realise it was the eve of our, what would have been anniversary. We had a friendly embrace & were surrounded by family, it was nice. Guys I’m sharing this story because I know a few of you have followed my journey through all of this & even taken the time to reach out to me. You are the ones I’m writing to today to say thanks for all the love, I appreciate you all. And to those asking me how I feel today I want to tell you this… I FEEL EMPOWERED.
Even though I wouldn’t wish what I went through on my worst enemy, I feel I really just did what other women around the world have done many times before me but mine was public so it was just noticed more. As I said I feel I just did what I had to do to better my situation & protect my body, mind, soul & most importantly my spirit.
I took my time healing, stumbling many times. I spent time with Jesus. I dated myself. I allowed my family, friends & dogs to help me & love on me. And I fought for my career.
There were times when I was alone but I was blessed that I never felt lonely especially thanks to my Church.
Now to his haters, my ex-husband I believe is a good man who has just made some bad choices, but are any of you completely perfect? I can say I’ve made some pretty poor life choices too but I believe it’s how we bounce back & get back up that’s what’s more important. There’s nothing wrong with failing forward & he is trying his best to be the best version of himself so please let him try.
Yes this man broke me however I didn’t let it ruin me forever. Through sincere prayer, petition & forgiveness, I can now call him a friend even though the expectation is that as his ex-wife I should hate him, I honestly don’t. Yet a friend who I’m sure will p*#s me off at times but none the less a friend…or maybe we’re more like siblings now haha he’s like the sibling who doesn’t give the best love advice 😂😂😂
He’s respectful that I’m in a relationship with a man I love whole heartedly & he’s sincerely happy for us. He asks love & healing advice & is trying for himself.
So to any of you who are broken hearted, my last couple of years is my advocacy to you..
Love yourself right.
Always remember your worth.
Be firm yet kind.
Pause, pray & see the lesson so that a negative situation can turn into a positive learning experience.
Forgive has often as you laugh & speak love!
Always having faith that God has a plan that’s even more magical than your wildest dreams.
The right person will cross your path when you are ready.. when you are busy loving yourself right.You just have to believe in your heart of hearts that God is good!